Of course, brother
Gatewood wrote in a very different time than our own but what he says is still
mostly correct. No one wants to be wrong. None of our friends or neighbors
wants to be lost. Not a single one of them desires to stand before the Judge
of all the earth and be told, “Depart from me. . .” (Mt. 7:23) They
want to go to heaven. Many of them want to please God and someday be with the
Savior. So, why cannot we say the necessary things to help them along their
way to that goal?
Sometimes, as brother Gatewood
says, our own foolish words and unhealthy attitudes get in the way. We can do
better. Let me summarize a few of the points which are made so forcefully in
this chapter of Gatewood’s little handbook on soul-saving and personal work:
Don’t
begin with criticism
If we are not careful, we
will become so accustomed to “skinning the sects” that we think the first
task in teaching others is in showing our prospect where his religion is all
wrong. Christ taught positively at first, then moved on to offer his
criticisms at a later time (see Lk. 4:21 Mt. 23:1ff). In both of Paul’s most
critical letters to churches, Romans and I Corinthians, the apostle began with
commendation then worked his way toward condemnation: “First, I thank my
God through Jesus Christ for you all, that your faith is proclaimed throughout
the whole world. For God is my witness, whom I serve in my spirit in the
gospel of his Son, how unceasingly I make mention of you, always in my
prayers...” (Rom. 1:8-9); “I thank my God always concerning you,
for the grace of God which was given you in Christ Jesus; that in everything
ye were enriched in him, in all utterance and all knowledge; even as the
testimony of Christ was confirmed in you: so that ye come behind in no gift;
waiting for the revelation of our Lord Jesus Christ” (I Cor. 1:4-7). The
Lord and his apostles seemed always to be able to find some commendable thing
to say about people before they began to expose their faults or answer their
objections. We ought to do likewise.
Don’t act superior
On this point I shall
quote brother Gatewood, “I don’t know a more egotistical group of
people in all the earth than some of us members of the church of Christ. We
think we know more than other people and anybody who is not a member of the
church of Christ is just plain dumb, ignorant. or dishonest. We think
we are right and everybody else wrong. Now this may be true, we do not have to
be so haughty and boastful about it” (49). The Bible says that the Christian
ought to “esteem others better than himself” (Phil. 2:3); and, “For
I say, through the grace that was given me, to every man that is among you,
not to think of himself more highly ought to think, but to think soberly,
according as God that dealt to each man a measure of faith” (Rom. 12:3).
We must be humble in our approach!
Don’t be dogmatic
If I am right about a
thing, yet act so dogmatic and radical about it, I will kill the effectiveness
of what I say. If I have come to be considered a person who is dogmatic about
everything, who goes to extremes on most every subject, then most every
statement I make will be taken with a grain of salt. Scripture says the
Christian should be seen in precisely the opposite way: “Let your speech
be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to
answer each one” (Col. 4:6). People should hear our words as generally
pleasant, and only on those matters which are critical to the cause of Christ
ought we to “lay it on the line” and “take no prisoners.” Then, folks
will be ready to respect this side of our character as evidence of conviction
and profound rather than more of the same dogmatism and radicalism.
Don’t be ashamed to admit you
do not know the answer
Whether about the Bible or
religion in general, there are many things which are surrounded by mystery.
So, do not make the mistake of giving people the impression that you are a “know-it-all.”
No one likes such a person. And, this will take the pressure off you as well.
You should not be afraid to say, “I don’t know the answer to that
question. But I am sure that if I spend a little time studying, that the Bible
will provide the answer. Let’s talk about that next time.”
Don’t always try to answer
everything the other person says
It is not compromising to admit
that the other fellow is right when he happens to be correct about something.
When someone says something that is true, commend him for it, and if possible,
offer the scriptural justification for his point. It shows that you are trying
to be objective and honest, and willing to admit it when he is right.
Concentrate on just a few important things, not every point which the other
person brings up. Many matters are not worth arguing about; some, on the other
hand, are basic and fundamental to an understanding of many other things.
Learn to draw a distinction between the things that matter and the things that
do not. Talk about the important ones, and put off the insignificant ones till
another time. If you never get around to them, what have you missed’?
Don’t do all the talking
The Bible warns against
this human trait: “Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to
wrath...” (Jas. l:19). Those who monopolize a conversation lose their
audience! Don’t be a “motor-mouth!”
Don’t use too many passages of
Scripture
It is much better to talk about
a few Scriptures than a long list. Why? Because the mind can only retain a few
things at once. If you only teach one passage, and get the message of that one
across, you may prove very successful indeed. Philip concentrated on just two
verses of Isaiah’s prophecy about the Messiah in his conversion of the
Ethiopian treasurer (Acts 8:32-35; Isa. 53:7-8). Yet, he led him to the Lord
and baptized him that same day!
Don’t get
angry
Anger is the surest
confession of defeat for a personal worker. Always remain under control, calm
and considerate of others. It is a sure sign of Christian character. Brother
Gatewood pointed out: “I have always found that kindness carries as much
weight in the heated discussion as logical arguments (57). The Bible says that
“love suffereth long and is kind” (I Cor. 13:4). Don’t get mad!
Don’t go out and do any
of these things. But do go out and try to speak to someone about the Lord.
A Christian’s Attitude
Author unknown
Just to be tender, just to be
true;
Just to be glad the whole day
through;
Just to be merciful, just to be
mild;
Just to be trusting, as a child;
Just to be gentle, kind, and
sweet;
Just to be helpful with willing
feet;
Just to be cheery when things go
wrong;
Just to drive sadness away with
a song;
Whether the hour is dark or
bright,
Just to be loyal to God and
right;
Just to believe that God knows
best,
Just in His providence ever to
rest;
Just to let LOVE be our daily
key –
That is God's will, for YOU and
ME.
The Spirit Expressly Says
...
1 Tim 4:1-6
Can God Lie?
Because, God is, and His
Divine nature demands total perfection of His character -- No, God cannot lie-
Consider, the following, "in the same way God, desiring even more to
show to the heirs of the promise the unchangeableness of His purpose,
guaranteed with an oath, in order that by two unchangeable things, in which it
is impossible for God to lie, we may have strong encouragement " Heb
7:17,18
God cannot lie. If He
did, that would make Him less than God. Before we accuse God of saying or
doing something that He cannot do; why not ask ourselves if we are saying or
doing the things He asks of us?
Food For Thought
“ We sometimes worship what we
have achieved, rather than praising God for giving us the means of achieving
it. ”
“One of the best ways to get
on your feet is to first get on your knees.”

We
hope you find this bulletin useful in your Bible study.
2
Sam 22:31
As for God, His way is
perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust
in Him. NKJV
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